At some point in life everyone will have a crisis of confidence and question the purpose of something they are doing or working on. Recently i had a moment of weakness and nearly withdrew my entry to my half marathon. My post Christmas fitness has actually been fine but my other priorities have prevented me from doing as much exercise as i feel the need to do. I put so much pressure on myself and just because i’m not training myself silly as i was pre Christmas it doesn’t mean i’m failing. I had a moment where i felt overwhelmed and as my looming half marathon draws closer i thought there was no way i was going to be ready for it. Truth is however i could turn up to a half marathon tomorrow and finish it in quite a decent time – we all have moments however when self doubt creeps in and makes you question whether you should just give up. Self doubt comes in different formats – you don’t do as much revision as you should for an exam and you question your career, you eat a burger and think i might as well just give up on losing that stone, you have an argument and question the purpose of a relationship, you don’t see your friend for a month and wonder if the friendship is still going strong… There are lots of scenarios where one tiny (often stupid) little thought can make you re-evaluate your entire goal or desire. Self doubt is terrible but often moments of weakness are often just that – moments – and in an hour, a day, next week we would feel regret if we acted on them. I thought i’d write this post today then to share some tips on what to do when you’re feeling like that.
- Don’t make any rash decisions, You might feel like quitting then and there on the spot but right now you are not in the best mood. Give it a day, let yourself calm down and look at things with a clear head. If you still feel that way fine but at least you know you had the time to think about it.
- Distract yourself. Take a time out. If you’re feeling under pressure about something go do something else and get away from it. Just go and do something that makes you happy, whether that’s going for a walk, having a bath, watching your favourite film – just take a bit of time to compose yourself.
- Talk about it. Get the opinion of someone else, they might help you rationalise. Or just get the negativity out of your system – have a rant, have a cry, talk someone’s ear off – it will really help you feel better.
- Remember your purpose. Why are you working so hard to achieve something, there must be a reason. If it’s really want you want remember why you wanted it in the first place.
- Find new motivation. I decided to make my half marathon more meaningful so i decided i wouldn’t just run it for me, i was going to now run it for a charity. This might seem like added pressure but actually the charity and cause means so much for me i feel more motivated. I feel inspired to achieve my goal again and it’s really helped me get back on track. Btw i’m running my half marathon for Alzheimer’s Society and i’ve set up a Just Giving page. To me dementia is the worst disease and if you could help the support the charity it would mean a lot.
So that’s all for this post. I just wanted to share my struggle and say it’s ok to feel weak every now and again. Don’t throw something away however on a moment of self doubt because while things feel overwhelming now, it will get better.